ladies. this is an intervention. some of the delusional daters on this site are worse than any high school girl i have ever met. I mean hellooooo, WE ARE BETCHES. Betches DONT chase boys, they don't obsess over if a guy likes them or not, and they definitely don't get heartbroken by a small case of unrequited love. Why do you think that is?
The answer is because, when you're a betch, you play the game with your head and not with your heart. From here on out just start assuming that all a guy wants to do is get in your pants. AND DONT MAKE IT EASY FOR HIM. why would he buy the cow if he gets the milk for free? keep the air of mystery for as long as you can because once that is gone things start to go downhill fast.
let me tell you something. i believe in soulmates, aka a person with whom you can totally be yourself, you loves you despite your flaws and is willing to work together with you to build a life and work through the bull shit. HOWEVER that doesn't mean that there is only ONE person out there for everyone. even if you think the guy you like/are talking to/are dating is that person, you have to come to the realization that even if it doesn't work out the way you hope, even if your heart gets broken worse than it ever has, life goes on, you'll get over it, and eventually find someone better. so, when you're obsessing over why some frat bro hasn't texted you back or hooked up with your frenemy, think to yourself: why should i even care?
now im not saying that this is the end-all be-all for relationships. I myself am in a very healthy committed and loving relationship of 2+ years. but i didn't get to that point by throwing my vag at my now-boyfriend at the first opportunity or obsess over our non-relationship for the first few months we were talking.
moral of the story: the slower you take it with a guy, the more longevity you're giving yourself in the future. let's stop fucking acting like guys are some kind of gold plated prize- WE'RE the prize ladies, you don't just get given a prize, you have to earn it.