About two years ago I was the skinny betch.
First of all im sorry for any spelling mistakes , Im from Strand, South Africa so english is my 3rd language...
I was 17 years old and my weight was 52 kg's ( 110 ppounds). Oky not the skinniest but i have a big bone structure and was happy with how i looked.
My father died in June 2011 and since then ive picked up more than 20 kg ( 44 pounds) thats almost half of what my weight was. i went to the docter who told me the massive weight gain was not only eating habbits but it has to do with a lot pshycology ( dealing with my dads death) . He gave me pills. I didnt lose any of the weight.
I realised a few weeks ago that enough is enough now and that i should stop blaming my head (phsycology) for the massive gain , because i know its all the alcohol, chocolates and fu#8ing white bread. Ive decided that from today im going to turn the fat betch back into the skinny betch. i looked at the diets on the list but in 2 years i havent stopped eating if try the ano or any of the other diets there might just die with in a week.
Ill follow any diet no matter how dangerous it is, but i just have to eat something. Even carrots and celary sticks. But i really dont have a clue where to start.
please help
xx
First things first stop taking anti-depressants, believe me I’ve been through my fair share of setbacks over the past 4 years. While easing off or straight up going cold turkey, you need to relax re-evaluate your life and start taking small steps to improve your life. Prescriptions fuck up your mind, I’ve had so many doctors prescribe me anti’s and to be honest they only temporarily eased my pain. Now that I’m off I’m even stronger and more confident then before. If you do choose to go off, take the next two weeks easy and don’t be hard on yourself. Maybe go to a holistic practitioner to help heal both your physical body and mental. Try to eat unprocessed foods and read labels. When you do eat processed food just consider all that toxic shit going into your body and polluting your mind. Apply yourself to some type of exercise, the endorphin’s feel amazing and they will help motivate you.
here’s an example of what I eat 6 days a week:
breakfast salad- spinach, two hard boiled eggs but only the egg white part, 1/2 cup quinoa, raw beet or tomato or any vegetables you like (sometimes I mix roasted veggie that I’ve already prepare the night before) the dressing is rawcoconut oil like a 2 tsp (supposedly it helps with thyroid which regulates your metabolism) and squeezed lemon (a lot!)
-green tea and 2 glasses of water upon waking
-apple for snack or raw almonds (sometimes both when I’m really hungry)
-healthy smoothie for lunch (I have amazing green vegan protein powder I put in it) along with frozen fruit, water, spinach or kale. rarely (put pom juice)
-dinner is usually soup from like whole foods or some type of protein with a salad or roasted veggies.
ok so I know girls are going to totally hate on how much I eat on here but I don’t give a fuck. I have to eat for my body because I work out 5 days a week. 45 minutes cardio 30 minutes of body work. If I don’t nourish my body I’m evil and miserable. I need the energy to sustain me so I can lead a successful life.
-Hope this helps!
Posted on — ReplyDon’t break too many hearts. xxoo
I don’t think your diet is questionable at all…i personally could never hold myself to that - i am way too hungry. But to the poster: i know it it very good for your body to have a light dinner like you suggest, such as soup or lean protein with veggies. Sticking to whole carbs early in the day will help keep you going and they are extremely good for you. however, i agree with med school betch below that says you do NOT need to do anything drastic…you have enough mental and emotional stress, eating healthy can be something gradual and doesn’t have to turn your world upside down.
Posted on — ReplyWhen I was a kid, one of our local zoos used to have this polar bear who lived in the most god-awful conditions. His habitat was way too hot and there was this little pool of water that he could barely submerge his feet into. As a result, my state was home to the saddest polar bear on the planet.
Anyway, a few years back I went through a total horror-show experience like you. My boyfriend died unexpectedly, this dude raped me when I was blacked out and I got pregnant, then the dude went psycho and started stalking me. Life fucking sucked on a jillion levels, for real.
I got really depressed and this chick put me on anti-depressants, but they made my life way worse. All I did was drink and veg out in front of the tv. I fucking hated life. Then one day I started thinking about the sad polar bear, which at first made me feel even worse, but I couldn’t stop thinking about him (and crying for hours like some total nut-job, for real). All of a sudden it dawned on me. Despite the fact that I was young, hot, and healthy, my life was exactly that fucking polar bear’s life.
You see, we evolved to live life a certain way. Our teeth, physical morphology, and the anthropological record give us a lot of clues that are totally ignored by most normal (non-suicidal and non-desperate to feel better) world.
Our teeth specifically indicate that we evolved to eat nuts, seeds, and raw vegetables, so I started eating nuts every morning for breakfast and nothing but organic food. Our bodies are like 75% legs and arms, so I started walking a lot and dancing like a crazy fool every single day. Our brains eat up a massive portion of our daily energy needs, they obviously need to be working on something. So I started looking into and thinking about things that I personally found to be interesting (I also ditched my stalker, but that’s another story for another day).
Most of all, humans need to have fun. It’s seriously hard to have fun when you’re depressed, but the things that used to be fun still are, you just have to force yourself to do them. Make sure to do something fun every day.
To be honest, I still have the occasional existential crisis. But my life pretty much rocks these days and the only thing I ever really have to complain about is the fact that I don’t like my socks or something like that.
I’d recommend the polar bear diet… in other words make sure your habitat and lifestyle are as natural as possible.
Good luck kiddo.
Posted on — Replyp.s. a bunch of activists bitch-slapped the zoo and the polar bear’s conditions were improved. i’ve not been back to see him, but i hear he’s happy as a clam.
Posted on — ReplyI can’t tell if the original post or the comments are more alarming….
To the original poster: Since your weight gain was caused by a severely traumatic experience, I wouldn’t recommend any of the fad diets or starving yourself. Just take it easy and generally try to substitute the unhealthy things you eat with healthier options. Eating smart, and exercising for 60-90 minutes a day from 3-6 days a week will foster monumental weight loss.
Eating healthy does not have to limit itself to the paleo diets mentioned above. Just simply eating more fruits and vegetables, cutting out excessive fats and sugars, and replacing fatty meats with lean ones (white meat and fish) is more than enough if you supplement with an intensive workout regimen.
Also, PLEASE consult your doctor before going on or off any prescribed medications. While this site is fun and entertaining, the advice you’re looking for should be given by a medical professional who is familiar with your history. Not to discount the advice/experiences shared by the posters above, BUT their advice is extremely questionable at best…
Posted on — Reply100% agree with medschoolbetch all of your advice has been SHOCKING. Antidepressants may not have been for all of you but I can say personally they saved my life, literally. Everyone’s body chemistry is different and psychologically altering drugs are very specific to the individual so if you guys did not have positive results than a responsible psychiatrists should have explained this to you and tried a different drug. As far as stopping taking your drugs without consulting a doctor this can be extremely dangerous for both your physical and mental well being. Please talk to a doctor.
Posted on — ReplyAs for the poster, I am sorry for your loss. You have been through a lot and crash dieting and trying fads is not going to improve your situation. Take things slow. Try to cut back on sugar and processed foods and add more lean protein and whole grains to your diet. Work on exercising even if it’s just going for a walk it’s good for you and your mental state.
Also the polar bear analogy made no sense whatsover
Posted on — ReplyIt totally makes sense.
Posted on — Replyno but seriously…the polar bear thing really made no sense at all… and i agree please consult with a doctor before going cold turkey on ur meds…if u feel bad now, it could make u feel 10x worse! and dont worry everything will get better soon, just try and stay healthy even if its just walking u gotta get outside no sitting and stuffing ur face throw away any and all junk food immediately, ice cream, chips, whatever…hang in there betch and ull be back to ur skinny self in no time!! xoxo
Posted on — ReplyI really liked the polar bear analogy, some people on here aren’t very smart. You can’t be happy and healthy in a toxic environment or an environment that doesn’t meet your needs, duh. It wasn’t that hard to follow.
I think the first poster had some really good info for you. Try to follow her diet or something close to that because fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins really really really will set you free. Keep gluten and dairy to very low amounts, and it goes without saying to cut processed foods, fast food, nightmare type food. That sends your body into stress mode. I promise if you eat like the first poster said and are very dilligent about it, you will feel 100% better within 3 days. (make yourself a chart and give yourself a gold star sticker every day you eat well and dont mess up)
Here is my recomendation: fruits, vegetables, long walks, massages, detoxing the poisonous feelings in a sauna, 8 hours of sleep/night, mani/pedi, a glass of wine with your most supportive friend, invest in a personal trainer and nice gym, get a facial, go to the beach or chill under a sun lamp if you live in a cold place, etc. Make taking care of yourself a priority.
And yes by all means talk to your doctor asap about weaning off the prescription drugs. My mom went through a really tragic situation (I wont expand here) and she used endorphines/excercise instead of anti-depressants. I was really proud of her. I really do believe excercise combined with a healthy lifestyle is the best anti-depressant there is.
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