hey betches, what is your view on liking Facebook statuses? my ex boyfriend and i broke up last summer due to impending distance but we never really finished things. he has now moved on and has a new girlfriend (who, while attractive, obviously sucks and is not as funny or smart as me). he has been liking my Facebook statues/photos pretty regularly over the last month. Is this totally normal behavior that I'm overanalyzing, or does this seem a little odd to you too? What does this mean?
thanks,
etchabetch
Youre over analyzing. If he was into you he would be dating you. Its fucking facebook for crying out loud. Its bitches like you that ruin it for everyone because i cant genuinely like a guys status without the psycho gf jumping on my dick
Posted on — Reply^^^YESSSS!!! sooo true! but i have to agree with K.K about the name Leslie
Posted on — ReplyI don’t think you are over analyzing. I have had a similar experience in the past and I think that while he may generally agree with a status or think a picture is nice it shows that he still thinks about you/may want to keep you at least a tiny but in his life in case things don’t work out with his current gf/your long distance situation changes. I’ve seen plenty of situations where a guy dates one girl over another simply because they’re right there in front of them rather than miles away.
Side note- the name Leslie makes me want to vom…
Posted on — ReplyDo not listen to this comment… It’s thinking/girls like this that make it impossible for exes to remain civil. Stop being so desperate… If he wanted to still be dating you, he’d still be dating you distance or no distance. It’s that simple.
Posted on — ReplyHi all, thanks for the advice. Appreciate it. Follow up question: what is your preferred method of handling a break up if you are the one who called it off? Do you cut off all contact or make an effort to stay in friendly contact with each of your exes?
Posted on — ReplyTo start there’s only one way exes can truly stay friends after a breakup and that’s if you were friends for a while before you dated. If you have no previous relationship as just friends before dating its unreasonable to think there’s a chance of being just friends after dating. If you only know each other in a romantic sense then you’ll never see each other in another light, doesn’t mean you can be civil but being friends is out of the question.
Posted on — ReplyEither way the best way to deal with an ex is to just leave them alone and give them space. Especially if you did the dumping because the guy is probably hurt, angry, upset and a whole bunch of other emotions he doesn’t understand. If he really cared about you/loved you and you’re still reaching out to him he’s gonna take it the wrong way and see it as a chance of getting back together. You also want to give yourself a chance at a clean break, a lot of girls end up getting back together with guys the dumped cause they tried to maintain an active friendship right after a breakup and they end up just pity dating their ex. Or on the flip side when exes try to keep in contact right after a breakup shit goes terribly wrong and ends up extremely hostile (more often the case).
Just give it time. It’s the only way.
All of this. Give it time…being friends with an ex is hard and definitely doesn’t happen over night. Reach out with a small gesture and see how he responds—if he seems cool and casual then go from there, but if you get the sense that he’s getting the wrong idea then back off again.
Posted on — Replyhave a point. on one hand, it’s natural to wonder why he’s still making it obvious that he sees what you post. however, i agree with K.K. - you’re overanalyzing. he probably is just trying to be civil/friendly without pushing any boundaries or making his current gf uncomfortable. also, if anyone should be “worrying” about his FB activity, it should be her, not you, so it’s really not your issue. just accept that he’s being nice but not inappropriate and continue to move on.
Posted on — ReplyDear etchabetch,
You are overanalyzing this, think about what Facebook is for: connecting with friends, chatting and above all keeping in touch with Friends. You were clearly in the friend zone from the start and thats where you’ll stay. In order to be successful with relationships, you need to be assertive and you need to communicate your feelings. Without communication, it leaves both people in the dark. I suggest you forget this guy, move on and focus on what you do work, school, sports, etc. Do what you can to be happy because naturally guys are attracted to happy girls. Its what makes girls attractive to guys. So keep your head up and stop worrying.
All the best,
Genevieve
Posted on — ReplyDear etchabetch,
While I do agree with the comments before mine, Genevieve’s really struck a chord within me. Can you honestly ask yourself and answer that you are happy right now? I get that the sense that you are smart yet eager for a relationship. Please do not understand the responsibility of a relationship. Will you be emotionally prepared to take care of yourself and someone else say if their grandparent dies??? I don’t think you are yet. Take this as a learning experience and embrace life, someone will come along the way. And if no one does there is always the convent and being a nun. Jkjk. But really forget this guy, if he was so smart then why was he dumb enough to let you out of his sight?
Take a deep breathe and put on some happy music because the good times will come.
Regina in Iowa
Posted on — ReplyMaybe you should read this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201209/7-phrases-will-help-you-get-over-breakup
Posted on — ReplyI feel sad for you but I’m also happy that the current girlfriend of your so called ex doesn’t know about you. You need to distract yourself and get away from the problem. Stop talking with him and move on.
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