my boyfriend (soulmate, best guy i ever met, the only guy i've ever truly loved) just broke up with me a few days ago. normally, i bounce back super quickly. this 'depression' is a whole new territory with me. because he claims he's still in love with me, but he just 'needs to get his life together' before we can be "us" again. so i guess we're on a break? i don't know. all i know is that he seems to be fine every time i talk to him, whereas i can't stop crying and i can't eat (well that's a plus).
what to do, betches? do i wait for him, be his 'friend' while he does whatever he needs to do (meaning get a new job, finish up his master program, find a new apartment... NOT doing other girls), orrrr do i cut him loose, find someone who is available to love me now?? it's just like, i've never been in love before. i know it's lame, but i feel like i lost a big part of myself. but what if my boy never comes back to me? what if he 'fixes his life', and then decides we've grown apart in the months we weren't together, and go gets another girl? and then i'm left having wasted x amount of months waiting for some guy who doesn't even pick me in the end.
this whole thing is just ridiculous. sorry for the long explanation. also, sorry for not being at the top of my betch game.
Alright. tough love time…. fucking move on. I was in this situation and it fucking SUCKED. Holy fuck men are so useless. once you get past you’re sad part you will realize he didn’t “need time” he wanted to see what else was out there. Like they think they can do better than us?? hahahaha… prove to him you don’t need him and can move on (even if you can’t) DONT SHOW EMOTION!!! I’m to fucking high to memorize all those fucking # but I know that one is up there. and he will either come crying back like the bitch he is or you will find someone better and treat you like the betch/queen that you used to be before that douche bag broke your heart. Also smoke weed.
Posted on — Replynailed it. Secretly all your friends want to tell you it’s over and you have to move on, but they’ll say stuff like “wait it out,” etc. There honestly might be a 1% chance, but not unless you tell yourself there’s a 0% chance and move on
Posted on — Replyi went through this experience over the summer. just give him the space he needs, don’t be clingy or sad and depressing when you talk to him, and do you. if it’s meant to be he will come back to you - mine did and we have never been happier. sometimes people really do just need some time to themselves to evaluate their lives and make them feel like they are their own person. the biggest mistake you can make at this point is being too pushy because that will only drive him away. good luck!!
Posted on — Replythanks for the advice ladies, i really appreciate it. i’ve been doing what the experienced poster above me has said, giving him is space. today he called and said he wanted to see me over the weekend. so i guess i’m left crossing my fingers and hoping for a similar outcome as yours!! thanks to the other two ladies too, believe me, my best friend pretty much told me the same thing.
Posted on — Replydo NOT wait for him. thank him for making space in your life for someone who truly deserves you and knows your worth. focus on yourself, give yourself time to move on and whatever you do, don’t contact him.
Posted on — Replyby the comments…i half expected bitchy ones saying move the fuck on, but its true: even betches have low moments sometimes, and i think most betches can DEFINITELY relate to heartbreak after being in love. hopefully during the time you give him that space you will see that you deserve better, not a guy who “needs space” before he can commit to you. like experience said, if he does come back and you still feel the samy way then sure, you never know, it might be meant to be. but just like s said - that doesn’t mean you should wait. move on and make yourself happy. let yourself grieve for a little bit then pick yourself up and get back to your betchy ways!
Posted on — ReplyWent through the same thing….. take my advice - don’t wait for him. TRUST ME
Posted on — ReplyI know lots of guys that get their masters, job hunt and apartment hunt and don’t need to be broken up to do so. Those are kinda big moments where you’d want the emotional support of the person you love. “Experience” who posted about how it worked out for her is like the one girl you hear about that turned a one-night-stand into a husband. A story that’s fun to cling to because admitting the truth would be too hard. She is soooo the exception, not the rule. If this guy cared about you to any degree, he wouldn’t be emotionally sand-bagging you. Read It’s Called a Break-Up Because It’s Broken several times and forget about this jerk. Remember first loves are called that for a reason, it means another one is coming. Oh and don’t respond to his beck and call. He wants to see you this weekend? Well tough shit, he broke up with you which implies quite the opposite.
Posted on — ReplyHe can do what he wants, but he can’t expect you to just put your life on pause while he figures his shit out and then expect you to be waiting for him when he’s ready. If what he’s saying is true and he just needs some space then maybe you guys will get back together, but what’s best for you is to try and get over the relationship and do what you want for yourself. When/if he’s ready to be with you he will have to see if you are available and if not it’s his loss.
PS betches don’t have souls let alone soulmates
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